Poetry

Music That Rains On Me #5

Music note, threads through
my heart, punching holes, yet in
hopes to sew them back.

-G Minor

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Love and Hate

There will always be love and hate with any relationships: things, places, people and yourself. You love and you hate short hair. You love and hate Chinese food. You love and hate photography. You love and hate this person.

If you don’t have that, then you are numbed. Either because you just became indifferent or there are no other choices. When there are other options out there, during the hate time, you’ll always see better things in the alternatives. And if there are no alternatives, you can’t love or hate it because that’s the only thing you get. But this rarely happens.

So it’s undeniable, the love-hate tug of war.

But the thing is, you must love it/him/her more than you hate it. Because that is the only thing that can keep you going through the hate times. That the love is much bigger and enough to make you tolerate the hate times. So now, here’s the question,

What is it that you love the most? That no matter how bad it can be, you will still love it? 

What are the fundamental qualities / reasons / values / beliefs that are core to you, that no matter what else has changed, these will still be the very things that you stand by and you love?

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Passion

What excites you to get up in the morning to start the day?

What is the very thing(s) that you love so much that you cannot live without, and that’s what keeps you going in life?

Your passion? What is it?

Passion (noun)

  1. strong and barely controllable emotions
    • a state or outburst of strong emotions.
    • an intense desire or enthusiasm for something.
    • a thing arousing great enthusiasm.

Have you ever felt something or someone so intensely that you cannot even control your feelings? It’s like this burning fire inside you, or a roaring lion that lives inside you that’s trying to escape. It is something, or someone, that makes you feel so strongly that nothing can compromise. And that it’s meant to be. Your mission here on Earth. Your the one. In this logical world, the majority of the people see passion as something that you need to control. You have to… tame your emotions. Dial it down. Balance.

Somewhere I read and it says “Some people are not meant to be tamed. They are meant to run wild until they find someone just as wild to run with.”

If you are passionate about something, or someone, go for it. Don’t let the majority stops you because being crazy and loosing your sanity is okay. Every emotion is beautiful. Love it. Own it. Enjoy it.

Remember this: You can loose anything – people, money, courage, confidence… but you cannot loose passion. When you loose or give up your passion, you give up hope of living.

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The talk. 

Just because you can’t say something doesn’t mean you don’t want to. 

You may very much want to. 

The thing is, what you want may not be what the other person want. The same thing goes the other way round. And that’s why we need communications. You can say that’s the beauty with human beings. Or you can say that’s the frustration with people. 

Some people give up and turn to art e.g. music, dance, photography, poetry etc. Because all of this is too much to take, and get good at, and strike the correct balance. Communication itself is an art. 

How do you get it right? Be good at it? You practice. You make mistakes and learn from it. You try and try and try again. It’s the same with getting good at doing different things. Getting good at photography, or being excellent in woodwork crafting, or excel in doing business and stock markets. You do the deed. 

But exactly how much time do you have to spend on them? 

If you are lucky, or more so, stubborn, you focus on just being good at one thing. And spend almost your entire time in it. Even if you are not a master of it, you’d be good at it. No matter what it is. 

When you start to have more things you want to be good at, you spread your time between them. And if you are lucky and smart, you’ll still be good at them but just takes longer, or most likely the case is you’ll just be mediocre at these things. 

So, do you want to be good at something? Or be mediocre in a few things? 

I, I just want to be good at connecting with my heart, whether that’s through making soulful photographs, writing my thoughts or creating melodies.  

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The impulse of conformity.

“We have more faith in what we imitate than in what we originate. We cannot derive a sense of absolute certitude from anything that has its roots in us. The most poignant sense of insecurity comes from standing alone; we are not alone when we imitate. It is thus with most of us! We are what other people say we are.” –Bruce Lee.

Nobody likes to feel lonely. And often people put being alone equals feeling lonely. So we fear being alone. We want to escape the feeling of loneliness. So we conform, and imitate, so to feel belong.

The thing is they are two totally different thing. Loneliness is an emotion. It means being sad because there’s no one else around. You feel isolated or even abandoned. It correlates with insecurity, fear and depression.

Being alone is being on your own, in the absence of others. And that, is when we originate. When we are still with being ourselves. It can be fearful too because no one is around, but that’s exactly it, everyone of us is different, and unique, there can never be a copy of you. So being alone can give a sense of joy and peace, when you are aware of it, and embrace it, because you are at present of who you really are.

So,

Do not let other people tell you who you are. You are the only custodian of your own integrity.

Be you.

 

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Knowledge.

“The person who says he knows what he thinks but cannot express it usually does not know what he thinks.” -Mortimer Adler.

There are 2 types of knowledge – knowing the name of something and knowing something. The former is called chauffeur knowledge, you know a bit of it, and you can bluff it so to make an impression. The latter is called Plank knowledge, that is, the stuff that you really know, you have paid your dues, and you have the aptitudes.

Real knowledge comes from the people who do their work, chauffeurs are the ones that don’t, but they pretend. They learned to put on a good show, but they lack understanding. They can’t answer questions that don’t rely on memorisation or explain things without using jargon or vague terms. They have no idea how things interact. They can’t predict consequences. In Chinese it’s called “throw schoolbags”.

So how do you know whether someone really know what they are talking about. Ask them “why”. Make them describe what the concept they said they know without using that very word.

Trust me. Many will just have their mouth opened wide.

Unable to discern between what we know and what we pretend to know, we ultimately become victims of our own laziness and intellectual dishonesty.

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